Every day when I pick my son up from school, I ask him how his day was. His response is simply “good” or “okay.” I continue to ask, “Well, what did you do?” His reply is usually “I don’t know.” Really, child?
It drives me cray-cray! I’m eager to know all about how his day and I get absolutely nothing from him. So I decided to re-word my questions in order to get a better response and find out more. It’s worked! Here’s what I ask him now to get him to share more with me:
- What was the best part of your day?
- What was the worst part of your day?
- What was the funniest thing that happened to you today?
- What did you eat for lunch today?
- Did you get called on by your teacher today? What was that like?
- What books did you read today?
- What part of your classroom do you like the best?
- What do you wish you could do more of at school?
- What activity at school today was your favorite?
- What was your least favorite activity?
- What games did you play at recess?
- What was something your teacher said today?
- If you were the teacher, what would you do differently?
- What made you feel happy today? (sad, mad, bored)
- Did you get to be a helper today?
- What would you like to learn more about?
- What topics do you wish you didn’t have to learn at all?
- Did you get or give any compliments today?
- Who got in trouble today?
- What do you think I would like best about your teacher?
- What do you think I would like about your best friend?
- What was the hardest part of your day?
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I don’t allow him to respond with just a single word, I try to keep the conversation going as long as possible with some follow up questions as follows:
- Tell me more.
- Then what happened?
- Why was that?
- Can you explain further?
- What else?
- How’d that make you feel?
So next time your child is being “short” with you and you want to know more about how their day was, try these simple questions that push them to explain further and go into detail.
“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you will go.” -Dr. Seuss